I was editing something (when am I not?) and I looked back at it and noticed that I’d typed in the word “hero” to describe a woman. I don’t really like the word heroine, it makes me think of drugs. But then I realized that I don’t use gendered words as a rule. I don’t like to denote that someone is a man or a woman based on an -ess, an -er, or lack thereof, attached to a word.

But then I realized that because I don’t use the female gendered word, that means I use the masculine (with the exception of “widow”… which is the only word I can think of that has a female root and a male-denoting suffix).
Which do you think is better? Using words like “actor” and “hero” to describe both men and women, even though they were originally the male word? Or using “actress” and “heroine” and other female words, and not using the male word to describe women?
OR, am I thinking waaaaaaaaayyyy too hard about this?
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